Tuesday, March 27, 2012

How much is too much??

There is a "take me as I am" feeling about many of the online profiles I have seen as well as stipulations about the acceptable qualities and attribute of those who dare respond. This leads me to feel as though some users want to take the mystery out of the process and head into situations with dirty laundry and skeletons fully exposed. There are parts of our histories and our past that do not define who we are and who we want to be moving forward.  I wonder if this could be a set up to keep these people trapped in their unsuccessful cycles and repeating poor choices in partners.

Familiarity breeds contempt

Have you ever felt as though baring your soul in an online profile invites people to feel as though they are way more familiar with you on the first, second and third dates as opposed to someone you meet or have met in a traditional way?

This thought came to me because of the bold and brash way I feel I have been treated by some men I've met through online dating.

Share some of your encounters that may support this point of view...

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Safety first...

I just read an article this past week about Match.com, eHarmony and Sparks cross referencing users with the sex offender databases in an attempt to make online dating safer.

Link to article - http://www.nydailynews.com/news/online-dating-sites-agree-screen-sex-offenders-article-1.1047863

Have you ever worried about your safety or well-being when heading out to meet someone for the first time?

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Tell me your online dating success story...

I don't have one, but I know people who ended up marrying someone they met online.

Tell me how you knew this was someone you wanted to know better...

Tell me what made this person's profile stand out from the rest...

Did you get what you were expecting?

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Not what I expected...

This happened a few years ago...

We exchanged a few emails after meeting on Match.com and decided we had enough in common to make it worth an in person meeting for coffee. When I got to Starbucks, the only person inside was a short (maybe 5' 6"), thin (maybe 130lbs.) and possibly gay man (not there's anything wrong with being gay, just wasn't sure why he was looking for a woman). Surely this could not be the 5' 10" car buff and self-proclaimed handyman who promised to sweep me off my feet. Alas, it was!! He was already sipping on his coffee, so I spouted off my bourgeois order, "grande, non-fat, toffee nut latte with whipped cream," and stood by while the barista prepared my tasty elixir. He sashayed up to the counter and introduced himself, then led me back to his table.  Our conversation was enlightening: he was unemployed, lived with his brother's ex-wife and wasn't sure where he'd be living in a month.  He asked me if he was what I was expecting.  I skirted the question. I told him it was hard to know exactly what to expect, but he pressed me for an answer.  I told him that I would be happy to answer him honestly, but that he'd need to take a minute to figure out if he really wanted to hear the answer.  He opted not to.  The place was getting packed.  These two women in sunhats and and sundresses walked in and he nudged me and asked, "Don't you just love her beach hat?" On that note, I thanked him for meeting me and excused myself.

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